Avoiding circumstances leading to abrahmacharya (indulgence)

The following 8 circumstances are to be avoided at all cost. If any of these circumstances occurs, immediately address your pure soul and of the person involved (towards which you had sexual intent)and do alochan (admission or confession of wrong doing), pratikraman (heartfelt prayer and apology for the transgression) and pratyakyan (resolve never to repeat the mistake again). By thus repenting and resolving never to repeat the mistakes, your mind will be retrained and and brahmacharya will become easier and easier.

1. Darshan (Look) - Looking at a woman (or man if you are a woman) with sexual intent. Apply three vision instead.
2. Smaran (Smaran) - Thinking about a woman in her absence, let alone thinking about a woman with sexual intent
3. Milan (Meeting) - Meeting a woman alone or encouraging circumstances to meet a woman alone. This is very dangerous and should never happen. You should never meet a woman alone in a private place, as this violates the priciple of siddhant of brahmacharya. If you have been invited to a meeting, and you sense there might be a trap, cancel the meeting.
4. Sparsh (Touch) - Touching a woman. This should be avoided at all cost. If due to social necessity, you have to touch for some reason (hand shake or hug), do it as if you are touching your mother, and do pratikraman immediately inside your mind (pray to the soul of the person to give you strenght for brahmacharya and free you from sexual desires).
5. Bhashan (Speech) - Making small talk with woman, or talking with an intent to attract, or praising about a woman's beauty or her aspects to her or someone else. Discussing or cracking jokes about sexuality with friends.
6. Dressing up with an intent to create attraction.
7. Reading, watching, discussing or thinking about stimulating material.
8. Touching of private parts.

If any of the above circumstances occurs, do pratikraman immediately. Address the pure soul of the file who is disturbing you, with dada bhagawan as witness and do a confession, apology and a resolve never to repeat the mistake again. Also ask for strenght of brahmacharya from the pure soul of the person as well as dada bhagawan (pure soul within). Details of pratikraman vidhi are in this website

http://www.dadashri.org/pratikramanvidhi.html


You have to do pratikraman immediately after a fault happens, otherwise a tuber of sexuality will sprout in your mind, and it will destroy you. If too many mistakes happens, and you allow the above circumstances do happen without pratikraman, the lust will over power you.

If too many mistakes keep happening, check yourself to see if your intent is clear. If your intent for brahmacharya is not clear, its better for you to get married.

By avoiding all these circumstances that lead to brahmacharya, you are making your intent for brahmacharya very clear, and the results will follow easily.

Lady Shanti

71. Lustrous Padam revels in union with the auspicious lady who is praised all the time by jnanis as Shanti.
72. That deep peace is endowed with a presence that can transform an arid desert into an ocean of ambrosia.
73. Enjoy the supreme, felicitous bliss of peace, the beautiful divine lady by remaining still.
74. May you who have married Shanti, the beautifully jewel-bedecked daughter begotten by me, flourish in the supreme enjoyment.
75. To attain bliss, unite with her, the queen among women, in the Heart, (regarding her) as your dearest companion.
76. Enjoying in your heart the bliss of Lady Shanti's tight embrace, completely forget all else.
77. What the jnanis honour and praise as endless supreme bliss is nothing other than the bliss of that beautiful woman, Shanti.
78. She is beautifully calm, has an extremely comely form, is worthy of reverence, and is boundlessly captivating.
79. Offer yourself as dakshina to her. Embrace her. Unite with that lady who is an unsurpassed ocean of magnificent and noble qualities.
80. If you have the good fortune to marry that Fair One (Shanti), your life will be enriched. It will be as though you have discovered buried treasure.
81. Siddhas will greatly revere and honour her, keeping their attention firmly fixed on her feet, just waiting to be of service to her.
82. Whosoever becomes the target of her glance of grace will experience an immeasurable bliss.
83. If she becomes your queen, under her reign you will attain unmatched glory.
84. She is a tender young lady whose form is the absolute and utterly perfect, distilled bliss of Brahman.
85. Those who are living in the presence of that blissful Lady Shanti will not even deign to look at the blissful realm of the gods.
86. For those who have come into possession of the distinguished way of living in union with that Lady Shanti, a life of living with (other) beautifully decorated women will appear abhorrent.

From Padamalai by Sri Muruganar